NO! It's Not Porn.

Occasionally, I meet  people who have no clue what Pure Romance is or what I do as a romance home party consultant. Although we have come very far, there are still many people who pass judgment on the romance home party business.

As a Pure Romance Consultant,  I Educate, Entertain and Empower!  I talk about  romance, sensuality and making love. I am a relationship coach, educator and business builder. It is my job to provide information to women at parties about strengthening their relationships and how to "Enhance the Romance" in their relationship. I provide the necessary info to help empower women about making decisions to strengthen relationships and strengthen their purses by building their own business.

Patty Brisben, founder of Pure Romance takes the high road when explaining Pure Romance to her cousin at a wedding.

“Patty,” he said to me after taking a swig of his drink. “I heard you made millions in porn.”

Porn! He put my calling on a level with trash and smut. He had the audacity to compare Pure Romance, a company that empowers women, to an industry that degrades them. I was absolutely livid, and angry enough to yell. But I didn’t.  Instead, I educated.

The first thing I did was advance. I’ve got to tell you, I hate close talkers. I like my personal space, and I am happy to leave you to yours, thank you very much. But I moved in on him so he heard every word I had to say.

I told him how Pure Romance gives a voice to tens of thousands of voiceless women. How we give women a vehicle to support themselves and their families. I explained, with a surgeon’s steady precision, how we educate doctors about women’s sexual health. As he uncomfortably backed away from me, I grabbed his forearm and moved with him as I described how Pure Romance is changing the world.

By the time I was finished with him, perspiration dotted his forehead and his eyes avoided mine as he scanned the room for someone to save him. I still had an iron grip on his forearm, and I did not let go until he mumbled as much of an apology as he was going to give me. I could tell he got the message, and I felt validated.

Negative people are going to try to drag you down—they take some sick pleasure in it that I will never understand. In some ironic cosmic twist, the more successful you are, the more delight naysayers take in trying to knock you down to their own miserable level. You owe it to yourself to be a squeaky wheel, to stand up for yourself and your principles.

Don’t lie down, don’t be silent. You don’t have to yell or scream, but be strong, be passionate, be a squeaky wheel. In any line of work, you are your own brand and the responsibility to protect that brand lies squarely with you.

There is a positive to nearly any situation, and this one is no different. Negative people, naysayers, “haters,” whatever name you give them, make for great fuel. When you feel like you can’t devote more energy to your business or you don’t need to improve, remember those people who doubt you. Push yourself to prove them wrong every day. You can read the entire post here. Standing Up

So the next time you run into a romance consultant, be open to what you can learn. Visit my website to find out more about Pure Romance.


Reece

I Have to Wait for the Perfect Time. NOT!

For about three years before I actually quit my 9-to-5 job I  knew I wanted to. The commute was horrendous and I felt that my time was so much more valuable than sitting in Atlanta traffic. I was also wondering what my job was all about. The original reason I accepted the job was MIA as the company I worked for was always in transition and chaos. 

I was in an emotional struggle about whether to quit my job or not. The struggle went from month to week to daily. Once the struggle became daily I knew that it would soon be over. The disdain for a job that was seemingly going nowhere was becoming more frequent.  My mind had left the job entirely and it was just a matter of getting my body out of there. 

Each time I felt that I was ready to make the move I would tell myself that the time is not perfect or I need more money or I need certain things. The final decision came after a trip to New York City with my son who participated in a track meet.  On the trip back I kept replaying the trip in my mind and just holding on the feeling of joy and excitement I had about being able to watch my son follow his dream. 

I was reluctant to return to work the Monday following the weekend trip. I was totally relaxed and knew that the job no longer fed me in a way that was conducive to me being my best self. I contemplated calling in sick or just quitting my job on the spot without a notice. It took every ounce of my being to go back to work. I decided that I was done.  I spent the next three days at work putting together my exit plan and making notes for my successor. On Thursday, July 14, 2011, I submitted a two weeks’ notice. I did not have a plan but I did know that I would be alright! I had an active direct sales business and the rest I would figure out.

What I do know after about 15 months of leaving my day job and decompressing from all that is 9 to 5, is that I am more powerful than I know. We are all more powerful than we know. The truth is waiting for the perfect time or I need more are lies we tell ourselves because of fear. I thought I would give up a lot to be free.  I was able to leave behind that old life and all the things, people and issues that didn't satisfy me. I realize that all that stuff was to fill an unknown void. Once we give ourselves permission to hear and live the truth we set ourselves free of the ties that bind us to an unsatisfying life.

 For the first time in many years I feel Empowered!  I and only I make the choices and I am responsible for me and my actions and I LOVE THAT. I love that I can travel whenever I want and not worry about getting back to a job.  Who knows what the next 15 months will bring or even the next month. The one thing that I do know is that I am excited about my journey. I invite you to follow me and share in my experience while I live my life to the fullest and be my best self.  Until next time I will leave you with this Cherokee story that sums up how I felt. I’ve decided to feed the “GOOD” and live life on my own terms.

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. 

He said, "My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all."

"One is Evil – It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, 

regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, 

resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, 

superiority, and ego" 

"The other is Good – It is joy, peace, love, hope,
serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence,
empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith."
The grandson thought about it for a minute
and then asked his grandfather:
"Which wolf wins?"

The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."

Peace and blessings,

Reece