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Don't Be Fooled By Distraction

Lashawn Lipscombe

 WCW‬ I am a woman. I have wide audience to reach but of course, my priority is WOMEN! So, I just read a post about ‪#‎VictorCruz‬'s fiance sending a GROUP text to his "side chicks." I was planning weeks ago to address a few things.

I dropped a few kernels last week. What matters when considering a mate? Money? Mind? The BULGE? Tongue action? On and on...What matters? How you feel in the heart. His actions? The things he does in bed to you? Well, if the feelings AND especially if sex is all it is about-then it won't go well and that you don't have to doubt.

Whatever you build on is where you will finish. If it starts as sex, sex is all you will likely get. If you start on unfaithful ground, more than likely it WILL end how it began, him doing unto you what you partnered in with him to do to someone else (unless you were kept in the blind which is rare). Material things fade. Good sex won't keep the rent paid, lights on, kids clothed, and if that is all it is about-when you in a jam-you SHORT. Sex based is sex only. If it ain't including sex-you better do it yourself. See, what males DO is what they SAY. Can you get that? Shoot, I learned that from ‪#‎DMX‬ when he was on Couples Therapy. His wife was upset with him cheating. He said I was cheating before we got married. He was a bit rough but I got it! HE NEVER DID anything different AND even if he said it-HE NEVER did it. So that said to me, they are what they DO. Their action is their talk. Whatever they say or do not say should not be listened to-if the action not ALIGNED...what we take on and keep on WILL STAY on-no change.

Words are nice. Hope is nice but when you dealing with a lifetime choice, ACTIONS are the best guide. This is not saying, the person cannot be in progress cause WE ALL ARE in some way. However, if that progress is nothing but talk.look another way or expect what you get. There has to be actions in support of what is being said. We often find ourselves with someone and act like we woke up one day and he was this way. No-we lie to ourselves or think we can change someone when ONLY God and that person can do that.

You cannot expect a boy to be a man. Some get a blessing and the boy changes but it is often not the case. Lifetime plans need to involve ability or a sincere willingness to figure out best way to produce those things needed over a lifetime: trust, stability, support, respect, communication, dedication, so forth. These are not found in just any person. You need a person with or actively seeking God cause only God can make someone suitable and hold them accountable. Girls think for the moment and decide in the heat of passion. Don't be fooled by that distraction. Whatever his actions-that is his word to you.

Good or Bad "If you accept it-THEN EXPECT it." LaShawn="POETICagnes"

LaShawn Lipscombe is a a contractor with the federal government and native Washingtonian. She is an avid reader of Christian fiction and mystery/suspense type novels. In addition, she writes poetry. LaShawn describes herself as a die hard Redskins fan by association. She has always rooted for the Burgundy and Gold, but her sons are HUGE fans, and are so into the games and all, she feels sucked in. As the mother of three, two boys and one girl, LaShawn has her hands full. Motherhood is the most important yet scary and rewarding job she has and sums it up in a quote from M. Russell Ballard, "The joy of motherhood comes in moments. There will be hard times and frustrating times. But amid the challenges, there are shining moments of joy and satisfaction."

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